Ep 179: Sober Sex with Sarah Olsen

Jul 6

Let’s talk about sober sex.

Today, Karolina gets candid about intimacy, communication, and exploring new ways of doing things when you’re not relying on alcohol as a crutch.

In this conversation, she’s joined by Sarah Olsen, a brilliant coach and Reiki practitioner who met Karolina during a sober weekend in Palm Springs. Together, they talk about the importance of discovering your love language with your partner, the power of “getting in the room”, erogenous zones, and Sarah’s favorite questions to ask her husband before bed that rekindles their attraction for each other.

Get ready to investigate and experiment with intimacy, love, and connection through an alcohol-free lifestyle!

IN THIS EPISODE:

Alcohol can be so intertwined when it comes to dating, falling for someone, and even navigating our own sex life.
How Sarah went from binge drinking wine to recognizing that alcohol was affecting her energy and lifestyle. It wasn’t a “rock bottom” moment but a revelation that lead to 3 years alcohol-free
Having a partner who fully supports you is so important to your success. Sarah was often the one who instigated their drinking patterns, so when it came to taking a break, she was elated that her partner was her #1 supporter
What it was like for Sarah to navigate sober sex after previously being intoxicated 90% of the time when they were intimate - including how they solved their insecurities around initiation
Societal expectations around “what’s hot” and why we need to focus more on ourselves. What turns you on? What do you love? What draws you to people?

REFLECTION QUESTION:

Don’t be shy. Think about what genuinely turns you on. Is there something new you can try on this journey of intimacy that’s solely focused on you?

“A lot of us think through the lens of ‘what turns you on?’ Like, ‘this is what I want in the bedroom. This is what my husband wants in the bedroom.’ And we can't get to a place of feeling that tingly feeling thinking that way. Because foreplay starts much before that. It's the conversations leading up. It's the experience that you're having earlier that day. It's all the things that are kind of melding together.” - Sarah Olsen

“You have to figure out what you love and what draws you to people. What turns you on? Get to know yourself. That doesn't mean you have to spend hours in the bathtub by yourself. Read some erotica, watch different movies that maybe aren't as graphic or something that's tailored to something that's a little bit more soft for you. Or bubble baths, music. Oh, my gosh, music can do so many beautiful things to a mood.” - Sarah Olsen

LINKS/RESOURCES MENTIONED

Join Karolina and Teri Patterson August 4-6, 2023 in Nevada City, California for an intimate mastermind weekend retreat, just for alcohol-free life coaches! Recharge your business and get the roadmap to scale your business to 6-figures and beyond. Sign up here and use code LOVELOVE to get $500 off!

Connect with Sarah on her website, Put It Down Lifestyle.

Check out Sarah’s book recommendations, Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel and The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.